Monday, July 27, 2009


My Best Gal Pal and I are 27 years and 1 day apart. I know what your thinking what can a 37 year old and a 64 year old have in common ? Bonnie and I started hanging out at bingo 8 years ago, then coffee, then just coming over to each other houses. We talk about everything from our kids to our grandkids and everything in between. Bonnie recently widowed has had her up days and her down days, which I understand through the eyes of my mother both whom lost the Love of their lives early. I would ask my mom how do I comfort her ? Mom's answer was just be there for her, listen to her, be a shoulder for her to cry on. Thursday night I get a call from Bonnie she didn't sound as if she were having a good day I instantly told her I would be right their. When I got to Bonnie's house she was sitting on her couch with a box of tissues and the portable phone. I asked Bonnie " What's up Chic "? It took a minute before a realized weeping, Ever so quietly she asked me if I Believed in God. My answer was yes, i then asked her what brought that on since we have discussed religion from time to time. She asked me if I thought she was a bad Christian, my answer was NO why would you think that. She had gotten a phone call from the Minister of her husbands church asking her if she was ready to give tithes ( I hope I spelled that right ) to the church, she responded to him I gave on Sunday. That's not what I mean he said your husband always gave big to the church and I was thinking that you would give half the insurance money he left. ( By that time I was seeing RED). It's your Christian duty he said, this is what God and Gary would want. I explained to Bonnie that Gary ( her husband ) left that money to insure that she would be taking care of, he would have put it in his will if money was to go to the church, and if she wanted to give money she could give to orphanages, animal shelters,the local food bank, if she wanted to give to the church it should be an amount that she was comfortable with that wouldn't leave her short.Giving should be from the heart God does not ask you for monetary things, being a good Christian doesn't mean you have to give money . Give of heart, be kind to your fellow man, and believe in God. Do you think I'm wrong for wanting to protect my friend from this Shady Man in the things I told her ?, When did Church become all about money?, Your comments and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

4 comments:

  1. You gave awesome advice. That 'minister' is evil in my opinion. She should get as far from that church as possible, that is NOT what Christianity is about.

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  2. I so agree with Ann's comment!!! You gave her the best advice and I hope she listened to you!

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  3. Age doesn't matter when it comes to friendships. I agree with the above girls. I definetly think you gave her the correct advice. I hope your friend doesn't worry about it too much and listens to you.

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  4. I know I'm slow but I just read this blog and couldn't believe it. That man is a chiester (sp?) I can't believe he can bring God into his guilt trip to raise money. If I was Bonnie I'd change churches and never give that one another cent!!!What people do in the name of God!! Mom McK

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